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Ann Friedman's Disapproval Matrix for handling criticism is a thing of genius, not to mention essential internet-age literacy. She explains:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you.

Complement with Benjamin Franklin’s trick for neutralizing critics, Daniel Dennett on how to criticize with kindness, and Anne Lamott’s definitive manifesto for handling haters.

What does it mean to apply Buddhist values in the work place? Two recent books mentioned in this article cover the topic, one aims to divest ethical and spiritual values from mindfulness practice, the other embraces these values. An interesting read from the New Yorker.

good.com’s infographic charting when people leave home for work - is it surprising that nearly 25% leave after 9am?

The Census Bureau released the 2010 American Community Survey today. It contains data on who Americans are, where they live, how much money they make, and how they get around. That last part is what we’re interested in today—this infographic shows when Americans leave home for work each day. A full quarter don’t get out of the house until after 9 a.m.!

People living with a disability are experts at overcoming obstacles, and it will show in their dedication to their work.


Want More Productive Employees? Tell Them to Take a Break

this is a great read! check it out…

Studies showed that while participants thought that their sarcasm would be communicated 80% of the time over email, in fact it was only communicated a little more than half the time.


Bring your job search with you, with these outside-the-mainstream apps for searching job openings and brushing up on interview skills.

Whether you’re actively looking or just curious about what’s out there, this job hunter’s edition of Free App Friday is for you.

Being likeable and being respected aren’t mutually exclusive.