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Many students across the country went back to school this week, or are going back in the very near future.

While returning to the classroom is an exciting time, it can also be challenging for some— not because of homework, but because of bullying. The devastating effects of bullying can last into adulthood, but luckily there are resources to help you recognize when your child is being bullied, or is a bully himself.

For more information, see stopbullying.gov.

A core value here at Lesley University is social justice - from the university’s mission statement, to academic programs, to staff committees, to student activities, and throughout nearly every corner of the institution.

This may be an atypical post from this blog, but I wanted to share some links I’ve collected recently which cover what’s been collectively called the Ferguson Syllabus:

  • #FergusonSyllabus
    @DrMChatelain began tweeting texts for #FergusonSyllabus. Many others joined with recommendations of texts as well as questions to pose to students at all levels from K-professional/grad schools. List being updated daily list being updated.
  • How to Teach Kids About What’s Happening in Ferguson
    A crowdsourced syllabus about race, African American history, civil rights, and policing
  • The Ferguson Syllabus
    Sociological Research Puts Ferguson in Context

Also, these links may be helpful when discussing the issues in your classroom:


We see the same bodily language on any sort of public transportation. Learn more… and maybe pick up some tips on how to deal with the annoyances.


Yoga is the perfect morning workout routine! Now, here’s how to make sure you actually DO IT.


Data breaches at companies seem to be in the news frequently these days. Learn how to protect yourself.


Childcare can be expensive, but there are programs that may help you cover the cost. See if any are a fit for you.


Ann Friedman's Disapproval Matrix for handling criticism is a thing of genius, not to mention essential internet-age literacy. She explains:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you.

Complement with Benjamin Franklin’s trick for neutralizing critics, Daniel Dennett on how to criticize with kindness, and Anne Lamott’s definitive manifesto for handling haters.